Why Can't I Heal Myself?
What is getting in your way of hiring someone to help you with your hypothyroidism and/or hashimoto’s? Have you worked with people before and you haven’t felt better after spending hundreds or maybe thousands of dollars with them? I’ve been there. I started searching for answers on my own after awhile. Got certified as a nutritional therapy practitioner which just made me even more confused. I tried to fix this on my own and you know I got to a certain point of feeling pretty well but I wasted a lot of money on supplements and books that were promising the perfect protocol for Hashimoto’s.
I was chasing the magic pill.
I can’t tell you exactly how to fix your autoimmune disease without knowing about you. About your life, your physiology, your stresses, your relationships, your self esteem, your brain health…. What is your immune system doing. How are your hormones? How is your gut? How is your blood sugar? What is your toxin exposure?
If someone is just selling you a protocol, they are cheating you out of not only your money but of quality whole person care. I have been there and am so frustrated with myself for chasing that magic pill that I am not willing to get your buy in with a promise I can’t keep.
Getting you well takes work from me but it also takes work from you. What is it that didn’t work on your end before? It isn’t about the money spent in the past. What didn’t work for me is that I didn’t trust myself to get past a certain point. I wasn’t willing to deal with some stuff that was still keeping me sick and rather than take responsibility for it, I blamed all the practitoners I had hired in the past.
You have to trust me but you also have to trust yourself and trust the process. Let go of the belief that you can’t get better and believe that together we can kick this disease in the behind. Take a moment to write down all the reasons why you can trust yourself to be successful this time around.
If you have never worked with someone to help heal your hashimoto’s, write down all the reasons why investing in you and your health is important. Do you want to be better for your kids? Do you want to be better for a partner? Do you want to get up in the morning energetic to start your day with a smile on your face? Then write down all the reasons why you can trust yourself to be successful in doing that. Are you fully committed to taking a look at what in your life has contributed to you getting and staying sick?
Setting a goal to get better is great but might be a bit vague because your brain isn’t really sure how to move you in the path of getting better. Your brain needs some actionable steps. It needs purpose and a sense of direction. Doing this will improve your confidence, commitment and motivation to stick with it.
Think about it like this- you don’t just one day decide to go on vacation and just drive to the airport and go to your destination. You think about where you want to go and why. Do you want a family vacation or a girls trip? How are you going to get there? What airline will you fly? Do you need a rental car? Will you stay in an all inclusive resort, hotel or AirBnB?
Same thing goes for a goal you might have to not be so tired all the time. Well, if you don’t really know much about how your body works, your brain has no idea how to forge ahead on a path to wellness. You have to do some research. Why do you feel tired? Is it just because your thyroid meds are not optimal or is it because of poor sleep or something else entirely? Do you have adrenal fatigue (hint- your glands don’t get tired or fatigued but they can make you feel tired). What does your blood test even mean? How much and what should you be eating? Have you been exposed to any toxins that might be taxing your body? What about an infection?
You see, you can spend thousands of hours trying to understand all of this or you can hire someone who has already done that.
I can figure this stuff out, guide you in the right direction and I can even tell you exactly what to do but it is you that has to follow through with my direction.
Know your why. Why do you want to feel better? Why is not being tired or squishy or whatever it is- why is that important to you? Really sit and think about this. When you know your why, it can be great motivation for sticking with the hard things.
For example:
Why do I want more energy?…… Because I want to make it through the day with out needing a nap.
Why do you want to make it through the day without needing a nap?….. Because I miss out on really enjoying my family?
Why do you want to enjoy your family?……. Because I want to be an active participant in my life?
Why do you want to be an active participant in your life?….. Because I want to be able to do things with my kids….
Why do you want to do things with your kids?…. Because I want my kids to have a mom who can be there for them and do things with them……
Really dig deep. Keep asking why until you get some answers.
Once you are clear about why you want to feel better, what results do you want to achieve?
Do you want to reduce your meds or potentially get off them altogether?
Do you want to lose the weight that’s been hanging on forever?
Do you want to sleep through the night?
Do you want to be able to not have your joints hurt?
Here’s the problem with wanting these results- you can’t always control them. You might be able to get off your meds but what if you can’t? You should be able to lose weight but this outcome can be affected by a lot of things:
You end up having to work long hours for some reason
Your kids or a family member get sick
You get the flu and are in bed for a week
Your vacation plans screw up the diet plan the nutritionist has set for you
You are just too stressed to deal with changing your diet
You can’t give up bread- it’s too tempting
When you are only focusing on the results you want, there will be frustration and guilt and maybe even shame when you can’t achieve these goals.
When the goals you set are based on things you can control, like your behavior, you can give yourself a small win to celebrate while you get to your final goal.
If your goal is to balance your blood sugar - that is an outcome you are looking for but if you reframe it to be about a behavior then you might choose berries and coconut cream for dessert instead of a gluten filled dessert.
If your goal is to sleep through the night for 8 hours (been there)- an outcome, try reframing that to a behavior goal of creating a routine around bedtime such as wearing blue blocking glasses while you read in bed, diffusing lavender in your bedroom, keeping the room cool etc. The goal becomes a calming bedtime routine rather than thinking “I must sleep through the night!!”.
Break down your goal into actions. Smaller things you do to get you to your goal. If you want to make your work lunches ahead of time your actions for that might look like, making a list of lunches you want to eat, create a shopping list, go to the store and buy the foods sticking to the list only. Come home and prep 3 lunches on Sunday and make a plan to prep on Wednesday for the later part of the week.
The actions need to be small and achievable so you are at least 85% successful. Chunk your goal into smaller sections to make it doable. Maybe you plan Friday night, shop Saturday and prep on Sunday. Be strategic focusing on the one thing that is in your way right now. What will get you the most “bang for your buck”? Maybe your fatigue is so bad that you can only prep the night before- whatever works. That is a small win too!
Lastly make sure you have support whether that is me or a family member and reward your action with a calendar to mark down every time you follow through and tell yourself “way to go, you are worth it.”
You really are worth it and I’m here for you as a strong advocate for your well being. No more suffering. My goal is to help people like you not have to go through what I have over the years. Trust that this is your last stop and trust yourself to invest in yourself to be ready to do the work needed to finally be free of being held hostage by hashimoto’s. When you invest in yourself you pay attention. You deserve it.
Go to the Work With Me tab and schedule your discovery call. I can’t wait to help you feel better.